Attitude of Gratitude

There are so many things going on in this world that we live in that being able to hone in on some joy has become increasingly critical for a sane state of mind. At least that has been the case for me. I was recently assisting my mother with filling out a mental health questionnaire for her upcoming doctor visit and we both sat listing things that we do when we need to destress and relax. At first, we were both thinking that the list was short. For both of us! But as we began to think about how we unwind and relax, the things that bring us joy began to increase. 

I’m reminded of the many times over the years I’ve heard people stress the importance of knowing the difference between joy and happiness. I must admit, for a long time, I was one of those who thought of the two interchangeably. I’ve come to recognize them as two different emotions. My happiness is sometimes fleeting. It’s like the first time I tasted cookie butter. It felt like heaven and was the absolute best feeling in the world, according to my taste buds. But it wasn’t lasting.  Furthermore, if I was feeling low or in need of encouragement, cookie butter wouldn’t have been the ticket for me.

My joy comes from a different source. That’s deep within and it isn’t always motivated or triggered by something external (like my taste buds!). For example, a little over a year ago, I had to make a very difficult decision to have my faithful furry put to sleep. A decision that is never easy and boiled down to his quality of life as his illness progressed. Thinking about it is very sad and definitely not what I tap into when I’m seeking joy. Instead, I find that in the memories. That’s how we are when we lose a loved one or just in general when we are going through a hard time. When we remember our pets, our families, or even a fun adventure we went on, we begin to feel joy. I had a really great trip, with a few minor bumps, when I traveled internationally with my parents a few years ago. Every time I see those photos and draw back on those memories, I feel a joy, something far more lasting than happiness.

When it comes to my faith, that is also a deep source of joy. Afterall, if we had nothing to hope in, then there would be no reason for joy! During this holiday season, well known for giving thanks, it’s a great opportunity for all of us to dig deep, tap into our joy, and be a joy for others. Especially those who might be having a hard time finding a reason to be thankful this Thanksgiving.

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